138: The Science Behind Spoilers

138: The Science Behind Spoilers

by | Nov 21, 2018 | Uncategorized

138: The Science Behind Spoilers

by Glen Rux, Kyle Reed, and Rohit Rohila

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Spoiler Alert! Everybody hates spoilers. Social media is fraught with people spoiling TV shows, upcoming movies, books, games, events, and activities. We believe it could be a couple of different reasons. If everyone hates them so much, why do people still do it?

The first that comes to mind is malicious intent. The true meaning of “spoiling” an experience is to ruin the experience for others intentionally. We all know that one guy that always tell s the ending of a story before we hear it. No one wants to hang out with that one guy because he ruins every movie/TV show and gets off on the feeling of power he/she gets over sharing knowledge that he/she believes no one else knows.

The second reason is more common. A person unintentionally spoils the experience by hinting at things or “foreshadowing.” These people truly love the story or activity they are involved in, but have a hard time avoiding information that affects your experience with the activity. They mean well, but have this annoying habit to set expectations of something yet to happen.

Why do these people do these things? Having been guilty of both a time or two, I think the first is just looking for the attention that they get from having the knowledge. The second truly enjoys the activity or story, but can’t separate their feelings from those of other people. They are the ones that say “don’t get attached to these characters,” or “just wait until the next episode. I read the book and the next episode should break your heart.”

Whatever the reason, spoiling something for someone has a real impact on their expectations of that activity or event. It limits their ability to fully experience or enjoy something new. If we are more cognizant of how we are sharing with each other, we might be able to recognize when we are guilty of these things and begin to correct it. It is difficult not to project our experiences on others. Therefore, we should try to be aware of how we might be trying to create an experience for someone else based on our feelings, and not theirs.

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137: How Texting Is Killing Your Friendships

137: How Texting Is Killing Your Friendships

by | Nov 14, 2018 | Uncategorized

137: How Texting Is Killing Your Friendship

by Kyle Reed and Rohit Rohila

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The idea of this episode was based on a conversation that Rohit had with his long-time friend, Tananda Richarson.

The way we communicate says a lot about who we are and what we think of those we are communicating with. Our emails, text messages, and phone calls are used to communicate for work, information gathering, and sharing with our friends and family. The invention of the smartphone made communications quick and simple in a device that we can hold in the palm of our hands and carry everywhere we go.

Slowly our communications have evolved to be more text-based and less direct voice communications. We say it is all for convenience but is it really? When you reach out to your family in a text, are you trying to avoid a conversation? Texts are great for quick updates, but are we texting out full conversations? Why? It is convenient for us because we can communicate on our terms. We can respond when we feel like it or we can ignore messages if we choose. What we end up doing is avoiding commitment to a real conversation.

Ever have a friend text you, and then not answer the phone when you call them right back a minute later? It annoys us because we know they wanted to talk to us, but it feels now that we aren’t important enough to talk to directly. That may not always be true, but that is the reason many of us have fallen into the trap of communicating solely by text. If we really are trying to maintain or build a strong relationship, our communication needs to also be strong. Text is great for quick updates but fails to express emotion or convey meaning. Often our texts can get misconstrued causing confusion or hurt feelings because they feel impersonal. Our voices can express more than words on a screen ever could.

Personally, I prefer to communicate through phone calls with my friends. It builds a deeper connection with that person and provides a better understanding between us. Another benefit is it doesn’t keep me on hold all day for a reply. I could be holding up my schedule for a reply from someone replying via text. A phone call can get an entire conversation out in minutes where a text conversation could take all day to complete based on the feelings of the person on each side of the conversation.

Take the time to reach out and talk to someone. Don’t take the cheap way out of a conversation commitment by texting. If you truly care about someone, call them and speak with them. You will find a better appreciation of your friendships and relationships in doing so.

Text is great for many reasons, but my favorite reason is that I can confirm events dates and times. I also like to send my friends GIFS and pictures throughout the day without having to engage in a whole conversation. I can let Josh know I’m thinking about him, or cheer my mom up with a 15-second text. 

I dislike the way you can easily interpret the conversation with different tones which can cause issues, and I also believe if it’s someone you don’t see often it is impersonal to only keep in touch via text. 

I love talking on the phone. I enjoy their company in a full conversation. I enjoy the sound of my grandma fussing in the kitchen and the sound of her voice.

I hate being on the phone. My one year old tries to hang it up, my three year old wants to take it and say hi to whoever I’m speaking to, and both of them immediately need my attention when I get a phone call. If I need to have a phone conversation I do it over Bluetooth in my car. Both kids are strapped down in their car seats, I don’t have to hold my phone, and it fits into my schedule so I can give more undivided attention. Is it distracted driving? No more so than having the two crazy kids in my car ?

Katey Matthews

Definitely depends on what you’re trying to accomplish. Each medium has its advantages and disadvantages for your goals of communicating.

Andy Weber

I prefer text. I think this stems from being an introvert. It allows me to have time to process and form an answer without being put on the spot. That being said phone calls are important for things that tone may get miscommunicated over text, or there is just way too much to cover over text.

Jessica Normann

I prefer text for 80% of my communications. 

Most of the time, the people most frequently contact it’s a single question or setting up a quick plan. It doesn’t require an immediate answer and I don’t feel like the formalities of a phone call. 

If it is an emergency or the plan or question has become more complicated I will just call because it is easier/faster to just talk it through.

Anna Birdseye

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136: Start… Stop… Continue…

136: Start… Stop… Continue…

by | Nov 9, 2018 | Uncategorized

136: Start Stop Continue

by Kyle Reed and Rohit Rohila

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As the year comes to a close, we need to look back on our goals and our promises. Were there actions I could have taken to reach my goals? Are there things I can continue doing that are moving me towards my end goal? What am I doing that I need to stop in order to reach my goals? These are the questions that we can ask ourselves to put our lives on the right track.

We all set goals at the beginning of the year to do “X.” However, most resolutions, goals, or promises are broken before the end of January. Many of us don’t even remember our goals at the end of the year. Whether the goal was to lose weight, save money, get a new job, visit family more, or anything else, we tend to procrastinate to the point where we see the holidays and say to ourselves, “Well, I just don’t have time to do this now,” and we push our goals or promises aside.

Some things we can do to help us hold the focus are to write down our goals and promises on a calendar and post it somewhere we are going to see them daily. Then we need to have a way to hold ourselves accountable. Take a moment to look at your goals and review your progress. Write down the questions above and answer them as they relate to your goals. As you analyze your actions you will be able to make little course corrections throughout the year and you will begin to see steady progress in your goals. We can celebrate the successes, make changes where efforts might not be providing the successes we want to see, and see where we might need to start new activities to improve our success rates. Doing this will help you get your sh*t together and be the best “you” possible.

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135: I Don’t Believe In Your Comfort Zones!

135: I Don’t Believe In Your Comfort Zones!

by | Oct 31, 2018 | Uncategorized

135: I Don't Believe In Your Comfort Zones

by Glen Rux and Kyle Reed

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Our comfort zones are places we retreat to-often never venturing out of-when we feel vulnerable, challenged, or just plain uncomfortable. We tend to stay in a zone where we are confident in the outcome and our own strengths. They are places where doubt rarely slips in. It limits our progression and prevents growth.

We will do anything to avoid activities that are outside our comfort zones. One example we discussed was public speaking. Some people are deathly afraid of public speaking. Fear keeps them from even attempting it. In school, I loved being loud and obnoxious in class…until the teacher called me to the front of the class and made me repeat what I had said publicly to everyone. Everyone had already heard me say it once already, but the moment I was made to stand in front of the class, everything changed. I grew timid, and uncomfortable. I was afraid of speaking in font of everyone when all the attention was on me. It was a simple thing that I had already done to get attention, but the moment I had full attention and the fear of judgement became real to me, I froze.

We all have something that is outside our comfort zone. We should constantly act to expand our comfort zones. It helps us grow and develop skills that we otherwise wouldn’t have thought possible. I never would have thought public speaking was something I could do. Now I have been a teacher at University level and teach people every day how to sell in business. Being in front of small to large groups is common for me now and I look back on my comfort zone then and see that I have made huge strides. Growth is not always noticeable at first. It may be gradual and even seem like not very much progress has been made, but if we look back over the years, we will see just how far we have come.

Don’t let fear keep you from becoming the best “You” possible. Try new things, meet new people, and grow your skill set. Continue to expand your comfort zones.

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134: Finish Your Year Strong

134: Finish Your Year Strong

by | Oct 25, 2018 | Uncategorized

134: Finish Your Year Strong

by Kyle Reed & Rohit Rohila

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Every year, we make commitments and resolutions for New Years. It seems though, when the holiday season comes around, we tend to push our goals aside. We allow ourselves, throughout the year to get behind and relax on goals we have set for ourselves. Whether our goal was to lose weight, go on vacation, save money, or anything else we set for ourselves to complete, we seem to procrastinate throughout the year and find ourselves with only 2-3 months left at the end of the year. Then we tell ourselves that we can’t possibly get these things done during the busy holidays and we let them slip even further out or let them go completely.

We want to get our shit together, but we break our own promises to ourselves. Why aren’t we being more responsible to ourselves?  We deserve the best in life, but that also means we deserve the best of our own efforts towards our goals. If your goal is to lose weight, it only gets harder to lose it with all the great food during the holidays. If your goal is to save money, it gets harder with the giving we want to do during the holidays.

If you know that your time is limited, and you want to take full advantages of the holidays, knuckle down. You make time for what is important to you. Make your goals and promises a priority because that is a testament of your character. Get a calendar and keep track of everything. A calendar can help you put a timeline to your goal and help you hold yourself accountable.

Take a moment to look at your goals. Have you accomplished them this year? If not, was it due to procrastination?  Look deep within yourself and hold yourself accountable. You still have time this year to make progress on your goals. Identify the obstacles in your path and make sure you focus on the result you want. Don’t let procrastination keep you from finishing your year out strong.

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