It’s hard to dig deep and analyze your life in a way that is both constructive and honest. We often make excuses and lay blame on external factors. How do we separate the external from the internal? The easiest way is to ask yourself 3 questions. Do you just ride the train of life and let others determine where you are going, or are you a driver that decides where you are going?

  1. Where am I?: Take a moment to look at your life and analyze your current circumstances. You are a collection of your past decisions and have no one to blame for who you are other than yourself. You ultimately decide who you are going to be. Victim. Victor. It is entirely up to you. This is something that hits personally with me, especially today when people are quick to play the victim and make excuses as to why they are where they are. This question forces you to look deeper, throw out the Bull Shit, and look at who you decided to be at that moment.
  2. Where do I want to be? I took this time to look at the path I laid out before myself and analyzed where I would like to be in my emotions, relationships, my career, and my health. This question is so much more than that though. You have a blank canvas in front of you. Paint the perfect picture of your life. Where do you want to be? What kind of person do you envision yourself in the future? What are you doing? Where are you living? Get deep and really look at where you want to be. Get creative but make sure it is you. This will help you set a goal for question 3.
  3. How am I getting there? This question helped me analyze how I am going to get to my goals. It makes it possible to create a plan and take steps that move you closer. For example, one of my goals is to become a successful streamer. Writing that as a goal, I can look at the steps t will take to get there. Improving audio and video quality, setting up the best equipment, and marketing my stream are now part of my plan to get to where I want to be. Also, I am working on losing weight. I set a realistic goal of living healthier first and the weight will follow.

These 3 questions are not meant to depress you or make you feel bad about where you are. Rather they are designed to make you be honest with yourself, understand where you are, want to be, and give you a method of planning your course of action moving forward. This exercise is meant to help get you out of any rut you are in, get you off that train where you are not in control, and give you personal responsibility and define your direction better.

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