111: The Pain Of Self- Limiting Beliefs
There are certain thought processes and beliefs that we have that are negative about ourselves. These Self-Limiting Beliefs may seem innocent enough, but your subconscious only hears them as limitations on what you can achieve.
A few self-limiting beliefs are:
- I’m not smart enough
- I’m too old, too young, too fat, too out of shape, etc.
- I could never do that.
- I don’t have the confidence to do that.
- I don’t have what it takes to succeed.
- I’m terrible at managing my time, money, etc.
- Taking risks always turns out bad for me.
- I’m comfortable doing what I’m doing right now.
- Successful people are just lucky.
- I deserve better.
- I’m a slow learner.
- I don’t like to read.
- My partner isn’t supportive enough.
Anytime we make a declaration of a limitation like the ones above, they hold us back and lock us into a place where we can’t grow. So many times, I ask people I’m coaching about the books they read and then make some suggestions on books they should read. I would say 8 out of 10 times they come back and let me know that they don’t like to read.
It doesn’t matter if you like to read or not! Will it make you more successful? Yes! So, do it!
Another great example is when people tell me that they are horrible at remembering names. I ask them if they could remember the next 10 people that they meet if I give them $100 for each person. Of course, they would remember it then. Well, what changed? See the person could have remembered names all along, but it just wasn’t important enough to them.
And that is a fantastic way of summarizing self-limiting beliefs. They are excuses that we tell ourselves so we don’t feel bad. “Sure, I could make more money, have a more successful career, and an amazing relationship, but I’m already happy with my life.”