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116: Painful Regrets of Inaction
Today’s episode is all about regret and pain that comes from it. Don’t shy away now; you know you are already thinking of some few regrets of your lifetime. Well, don’t worry, cause you are not alone. Every single person has regretted something in their life or due to their actions that have led to either one of these pain: Pain of Discipline or Pain of Inactions
All of us have the common understanding that decision that we make right now will affect your future and yet we allow to fuck it up every time. Why do we not follow our dreams and regret it later? Think about that once in a lifetime experience that you missed because of some lame excuse you made and now you regret from not doing it. Maybe it’s an experience you missed of staying on campus during your college years. Maybe it’s your first love that you never got courage to ask out. Or maybe it’s the exotic wildlife safari experience that your friends were enjoying while you were working 9 to 5 in your 3 x 3 cubicle. Have you followed your heart and made the decision rather than your ability of inactions, would you have appreciated the event better now?
We will find any excuse to help other follow their dreams but ours. We will break our back and work 9 to 5 or even put in 80 hours a week just to make a buck while your boss makes millions. Bigger question is what are you setting yourself up for? What are the past mistakes that you are seeing the results now? What can you do to change them? Because if past has taught us anything is that no action is still hurting you and will continue to hurt until you let it so.
Welcome back, listeners!
365 days, 8,760 hours, 525,600 minutes, 31,536,000 seconds in a year….how much of that are you proactive? How much of that time do you spend on escaping from your dreams, work, life, relationship? It’s an interesting question that isn’t very simple, because in reality escapism can be interfered as multiple ways, but is it good or is it bad? In today’s episode, GYST crew came to the conclusion that positive escapism = Help us Challenge and negative escapism = Kill time.
We often find ways to escape from our real words. It could be reading a book, cleaning the house, working on your car, doing drugs, drinking every night, but the question is why do you do that and how does it affect you? Is it stress relief or mind-numbing? Is this your lifestyle? Is it affecting other areas of your life? You only have 24 hours in life and if you are using it to kill time, then what are you doing with your life? Often people get into this rhythm of doing something as a stress relief, but you end up repeating so much that it becomes a norm. An action that was once a positive escapism turns to negative escapism and you don’t even realize it! It only takes little changes till it becomes subconsciously permanent and we need to apply the same rule again if we want to turn negative escapism to positive escapism.
Join into today’s episode to find out what GYST crew is doing to turning their negative escapism around and get their SHIT together!
114: Investing In Yourself
It seems such a long time ago when Rohit approached me about joining the GYST crew, but I guess that’s prone to happen when you are so deep into investing in yourself that it feels like an eternity but, it’s been only sometimes.
Over the past year, I have learned an incredible amount of knowledge and improved myself in so many ways that I could have never imagined doing so before. I have learned to manage my time better, prioritize, improve a relationship and just so many other little quirks that you might not notice but it’s ok because no matter how big or small of an effort I am making, it’s a step toward progress.
Investing in yourself doesn’t mean spending money on yourself, but instead finding ways to cherish and celebrate yourself along with taking steps to improving yourself. It’s what you do for yourself along with the people that are around you that matters. Are you bringing joy or are you bringing toxic? If you are bringing toxic, then guess what? It’s ok. That’s why you are here to GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER! Find that toxic and make a little change to improve that. It doesn’t matter if it’s fixing the broken and twisted relationship or setting a goal to read 1 book in 6 months. It’s what you do to improve yourself is what matters and no one else can be a judge of that, but yourself.
A lot of people fear changes which come with hand to hand with investing in yourself because that means changing for better but staying true to yourself. Humans have been on this planet for millions of years, we are here now because of the improvement of our past. We wouldn’t be here without the accomplishments of our ancestors. We must apply the same terminology in our personal lives if we want to make a difference and if not for the world, then for our family and closed ones.
It has been an adventure to see all the changes, but I wouldn’t change it for anything. I am glad to be making these changes and applying it to my daily life. Question is, do you want to get your shit together?
113: Conquering Your Fears
Fear. It’s such a simple term yet such complicated subject, since not only it can affect you physically, but it can seriously mess you up in your head! In today’s episode, Glen and Kyle share how they have been affected by fear and how they have gotten their shit together and learned to conquer their fears, but before we get into that, we must truly understand what is fear and where it really drives from?
Fear is something that can lead to life or death situation based on traumas and bad experiences, but as crazy as it sounds the best way to get over is by moving those experience. Fear is explained based on physical hurt, but, fear can take many shapes and forms. It can take shape in fight or feat, fear of memory, fear of failure, fear of progress, name YOUR fear and it will appear. Question is, how do YOU move past it? Every single person is different. Every single person has their own experience and each moment can lead to a different type of fear in each person. It’s how we overcome and move on with our life is what’s most important.
One of my biggest fear was getting behind the wheel after getting into a life-threatening accident. It’s not the fear of getting behind the wheel, but it’s the fear of knowing that this is possible at any second and with a split second your life can be over. Knowing that my life can be over at any moment when I am on the road. The worst thing is it can be out of my hands. It takes an even bigger toll on my mental health when I must relive that moment by driving on that same road every single day. I can take alternative routes and avoid that road, but is it really helping me conquer my fears or run the other way? Is it easy? Fuck no. Is it scary to drive through that road every day? You betcha. Do I feel like I am conquering my fears? Every single moment I drive through that because if I didn’t and took alternative route every day I would be running away from my fears.
You see the wonderful part of life and growing up is going through different stages of fear. We wouldn’t be where we are without fear. With fear, you learn to push yourself to beyond your limit and break through whatever brings you down. You must learn to trick your beliefs and mind to NOT stop you from achieving what you want. Most people will avoid anything that they fear like a plague, but look deeper and ask yourself if this fear is holding you back or helping you move your life forward?
112: Living With Depression
Welcome back, listeners!
During my 28+ years of my life, I have run into few people who have been living with depression for a long time. These people have been going day by day feeling depressed at most times and honestly, just living like a Zombie. I have known people who have been let go from their place of employment because they stopped coming to work and giving a shit about themselves or anyone close to them. Heck, they even stopped coming out of their room! Even though I have seen people live like this every day, there was always a part of me that always wondered is it even real? It always baffled me because I could NEVER understand why would anyone want to be at this stage? Why would you be so drowned in your sad thoughts that you are now making the environment toxic? Why don’t you just man the fuck up and just get over it?
It wasn’t until recently when I went through a life-threatening car accident where I was lucky to be alive and walk away without a scratch. I might not have any physical indication that I wasn’t hurt, but oh boy was I messed up mentally. This is when I realized that depression isn’t physical, but emotional and mental. What’s even more fucked up, which in reality is just a cruel humor of life, is that NO ONE can help you like you can help yourself. Quickly, I came to the realization that if I don’t work on my mental health and start moving on I will never get back up. If I don’t move past this, then I will keep spinning in the Depression world like a sports car stuck on a beach (don’t laugh yes, it did happen to me).
I believe that’s one of the biggest pieces – overcoming your emotional and mental state. This doesn’t sound very challenging, but the fact is not one person can control other person’s emotional or mental state. You have to work on it yourself just like going to the gym if you want to get better. For some people, it might be really easy. For some people, it’s the toughest thing in their life. There is no right or wrong way of doing this. You have to work on yourself to improve your life every day. Even if it’s a small improvement, it’s a small progress toward beating depression.
In today’s episode, one of our podcast members is getting their shit together by opening up on air and truly sharing what it’s like living with depression. These are real thoughts, real emotions, real tears, and real depression. This was a shock to me because I knew that my best friend was unhappy and given the circumstances I understand, but I never knew that he was living in depression. It is shocking to see my best friend go through this, but should I really be? A study shows that depression has become #2 reason impacting our health, but by 2030 this will be #1 cause of loss of longevity of life.
Join in and listen to today’s episode as Amit shares how it’s like living with depression to Kyle to not only help himself but to also give a blink of hope for all the people out there who want to Get Their Shit Together.
111: The Pain Of Self- Limiting Beliefs
There are certain thought processes and beliefs that we have that are negative about ourselves. These Self-Limiting Beliefs may seem innocent enough, but your subconscious only hears them as limitations on what you can achieve.
A few self-limiting beliefs are:
- I’m not smart enough
- I’m too old, too young, too fat, too out of shape, etc.
- I could never do that.
- I don’t have the confidence to do that.
- I don’t have what it takes to succeed.
- I’m terrible at managing my time, money, etc.
- Taking risks always turns out bad for me.
- I’m comfortable doing what I’m doing right now.
- Successful people are just lucky.
- I deserve better.
- I’m a slow learner.
- I don’t like to read.
- My partner isn’t supportive enough.
Anytime we make a declaration of a limitation like the ones above, they hold us back and lock us into a place where we can’t grow. So many times, I ask people I’m coaching about the books they read and then make some suggestions on books they should read. I would say 8 out of 10 times they come back and let me know that they don’t like to read.
It doesn’t matter if you like to read or not! Will it make you more successful? Yes! So, do it!
Another great example is when people tell me that they are horrible at remembering names. I ask them if they could remember the next 10 people that they meet if I give them $100 for each person. Of course, they would remember it then. Well, what changed? See the person could have remembered names all along, but it just wasn’t important enough to them.
And that is a fantastic way of summarizing self-limiting beliefs. They are excuses that we tell ourselves so we don’t feel bad. “Sure, I could make more money, have a more successful career, and an amazing relationship, but I’m already happy with my life.”
110: These Phrases Are Hurting Your Success
It feels like communication in your life should be a very easy concept to understand. In fact, what can be more straightforward than using words to express yourself? Unfortunately, the words and phrases we use often time have a hidden negativity to them. These phrases do very little to motivate you, and even though they may be used as jokes or statements of fact, they do more damage than good.
The secret to changing things around is to rephrase the phrases that you use every day to empower you, instead of disempowering you. Here are a few examples that we try to hold each other accountable for all the time in the studio:
“I can’t do that” >>> “I haven’t done that yet”
“I have to” >>> “I get to” or “I choose to”
“I’ve been busy” à I’ve been productive
That last one is an interesting one because it has become the default answer that we all give when asked how we have been. But by telling someone that you are busy, all that does is let them know that you don’t know how to manage time. If it takes you 8 hours to do something and takes someone else only 6 hours to do the same work, well now you can see what we mean.
Phrases that empower you don’t necessarily come without success. The starting point is to have a positive attitude.
108: Expectations of Gifiting
Imagine it’s a 6 AM on Christmas Day, you just woke up rubbing your eyes rushing down the stairs to gather around the Christmas tree to open your gifts. Man, isn’t that exciting! You have dozens of great gifts that you can’t wait to open. You eye on that one specific big box with your name on it hoping it’s that gaming console you have been wanting for months. Only to find out after you open it that it’s just shoes. You can feel that disappointment when you don’t get what you were expecting and in some cases be upset, but in the end, you do as your parents thought you and you say thank you and you move on, but do you really move on?
In some cases, people in these situations start resenting that other person. In this episode, Rohit and Kyle dig deeper into the meaning of gifting. They describe gifting as willing to let go or sacrifice for others. This would lead to not having expectations, because the more we expect from someone, more our standard get which they have to meet and if they don’t then you start having resentment towards them.
Then they lead into how do you know if it’s genuine or not? Gifts can be seen as 2 ways: a reflection of how you see other person based on what gift you give them and reflection of how you see other person seeing you when you receive that gift. Does your view or perception change based on what you get?
Want to know more about what Rohit and Kyle shared? Then listen to this episode and Get Your Shit Together!
107: How Procrastination Feeds Regret
Have you wondered why we procrastinate? Of course, you do! You have been doing it your entire life! It sounds salty, but it’s the truth. Everyone procrastinates and there’s a part of it that it’s not your fault. It’s just human nature and in reality, we tend to procrastinate simple tasks in our day to day life which leads to a bigger question: where else are you breaking your commitment?
Why do we do it? Is it because of our purpose in life? It sounds insane, but if you think about it it’s really not, right? In today’s episode, Kyle and Rohit explain how every day we have little tasks that we do. We have goals and life tasks that we create for ourselves which we tend to try to achieve, but what if there weren’t any more tasks. What would you do then? Would you have a purpose in life?
One of the idea that we explored was whether procrastination is tied to external or internal commitment. You tend to keep other people commitment, but not yours. If you dream of traveling by yourself to a specific place, but you never do it. You keep procrastinating on finding places to visit or booking a flight, but at the same time if your best friend from high school is having a reunion 5 states away then you would do anything to make that.
So now as time passes by you keep delaying your lifelong dream of traveling to one the seven wonders of the world and next thing you know, it’s 20 years later and you are too old to go enjoy the way you had envisioned. In the end, you lose your lifelong dream, because you procrastinated too long. Not only you procrastinate on your lifelong dreams, you are now also fulfilling other people’s dreams. In today’s world, we are used to working for other people and not on our dreams so the longer we do that, the longer we make other people money and fulfill their dreams.
The only question we should ask ourselves is: why are you making your dreams less important and not getting you SHIT together?
106: Key Moments of Growth
We often talk about important events in our life as a child and how parents protect us and help shape our future, but we also forget to do the same for ourselves when we are grown up. Why is that? Are these moments not important to us? I believe it’s because we get caught up in our day to day life that we don’t have control over it anymore. Then when we look back, we realized our mistakes and define the moments where we could have improved on ourselves.
Defining key moments in life is one of the crucial parts of life because these are the moments that make you who you are today. These are the moments in your life, it could be a split sec or hours long, that has defined you and shaped you into a human being that you are today. These are the moments that can either make or break your future. These are the moments that can turn your life around and get your shit together. So why are we afraid of questioning it more? What are the key moments in your life? What is the exact moment when you realized “Oh SHIT! Do I need to get my shit together? What made you realize that? Did someone influence you? Do you know your key moments of growth?
In today’s episode, GYST crew discuss the importance of defining key moments of YOUR life, but they also talk about how to recognize these key moments along with exercises that can proactively help you change your future; exercises like Circle of Influence, Monthly Review, Meditation and many others. If you are not familiar with our exercises, then check out our previous episodes where we talk about them in great detail and GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER!
105: First Impressions
Welcome back, listeners! They say that if you study or practice something for 10,000 hours, you are seen as a global expert. With 105 episodes, we are roughly .5% experts in Personal Development. This shows that we don’t know JACK SHIT! But just enough to GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER! Just by reading that, you have already made your first impression about this episode and has dictated whether you will listen to this episode or not. If you do, then awesome! If you don’t, then isn’t it’s amazing that just a simple first impression was enough for you to not listen.
You know what’s more interesting? The fact that it takes less than 7 seconds for you to judge someone and make your first impression about them. A study shows that 38% of what makes up the first impression is how you actually sound; 7% of the first impression is the words you actually say; other 55% is based on visual. Think about the one person that stood out today. What was it about them? How soon did you make your assumptions? How much was it because of how represented himself? The most interesting fact out of all is that in addition to making your first impression within 7 seconds, it takes you 7 more times to meet that person to change your first impression about them and I emphasize on First Impression, because during this time you memory is recollecting the first time you saw them and made your impression.
In today’s episode, GYST Crew talks about the importance of First Impression along with how you act or how others act toward you based on first impressions. The impressions that you make mental note of subconsciously and hold on to it for a long time. So, tune into today’s episode to GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER!
104: Celebrate Yourself
One of my favorite moment of my life was when I was about 12 and my parents threw a birthday party for me at a local burger joint. Yes, I know it’s not the conventional place and it was so cold and pouring outside but I didn’t care a single bit because I was so stoked as I planned this and having all my friends to celebrate my birthday. Over the last few years, I have not wanted to celebrate myself and over the years I have built a program for myself where I stopped celebrating myself. After listening to Rohit, Kyle, and Glen, I looked back and realized that moment was the moment when I truly celebrated myself and not only that, but my family and my friends didn’t celebrate my birthday but celebrated me.
As I grew older, I got tangled with my day to day activities which is when I start losing the reason as to why I am here in the first place! I believe we all do that in one or another and we stop taking care of ourselves and we start taking other people for granted. It’s not your fault, it’s just how the society is and how we get mold as we grow up, but you have to remember that you are here because you are valued. You are valued to yourself, to your family, friends, and anyone who you have a physical and emotional connection with. You are here for a reason so why not celebrate yourself?
In today’s episode, GYST group shared how they celebrate themselves. Glen takes his annual bday trip; Rohit takes his annual Memorial Day solo trip; Kyle celebrates himself by treating himself with 100 pairs of shoes and eating dinner alone (don’t worry he doesn’t do that every night cause that would be just….well…sad).
So that just leaves it with one question – How do YOU celebrate yourself and Get Your Shit Together?
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103: Intellectual vs Emotional Beliefs
The majority of our programs, habits, and the way we think are created by emotional experiences in our past. Think about a hot stove. When you are a kid and you touch that stove and burn yourself, your brain automatically associates a hot stove with pain. Then as you grow older, you don’t think to yourself, “There is a hot stove. Remember when we were young and touched that stove, it hurt really bad. Therefore, I’m not going to touch it.” Your brain just kicks in and protects you from touching it based on a past emotional experience.
As we grow older, we learn that our brain is a powerful tool and we can reprogram it. Those who master changing their programs are some of the most successful people out there. When you were a kid you were constantly told not to trust strangers. Not only were we told, but we were given an emotional pain to associate with that, such as how strangers would harm us. The repetition of that warning and negative emotional association impacts us as adults as well. That is why the majority of us are nervous around people we don’t know because we don’t trust them yet.
But even though that is an emotional belief that we have, we can see how it holds us back. Those who realize this limitation and work on getting over it, understand the power that the mind has. They will rewire their brain with a new belief, and intellectual belief.
If you have beliefs that are holding you back in life, try to trace them back to when you first developed those beliefs. What happened? Was it an intellectual or emotional response to an experience? Once we understand how our brain works, we can rewrite these self-limiting beliefs and discover an exciting world that lives outside of your comfort zone.
102: Fixed Mindset VS Growth Mindset
Today is an interesting topic because we literally help you realize how to Get Your Shit Together! One of the reasons why we are always feeling stuck is because we don’t challenge ourselves much anymore. We take things in our life as it comes in while trying to put in as little effort as possible. Have you ever wondered how your classmate from High School is a millionaire by the age of 25 while you are sitting in your 1 bedroom apartment eating cup of noodles?
In today’s world, everything is given to us and everything has made it easier for us in this day of technology, so it’s not surprising when we start applying the same program to our personal lives. When we start doing this, we stop ourselves from expanding our mind and we fall under the fixed mindset.
Fixed mindset people would make any type of excuses as possible when something challenging presents itself. They are mainly close minded and would generally stay within their lanes. They wouldn’t try to expand their knowledge which results with them saying “I don’t know how to…” more often than they should. They are very self-critical and tend to stick with the knowledge that they have.
On the other hand, Growth mindset people are totally opposite. They are eager to learn and will find a way one way or another to gain that knowledge. They will be the first ones to take a risk and is always ready to learn, because they understand the value of themselves. They are very open minded and will listen to other suggestions. Instead of saying “this is good enough”, they will keep enforcing “how can we make this better?”.
All it takes is little changes in our lives to start shifting from fixed mindset to growth mindset and to take a step forward toward GETTING YOUR SHIT TOGETHER!
101: 6 Powerful Journal Prompts
Welcome back to the 101st episode!
Journaling is a very powerful thing as it provides a sense of credibility as we start acknowledging what we are writing down. For some, it’s to reflect back on what you did on this day in future, others it’s to figure out what they want in future, or what’s been holding them back. Every single individual is going to get a different outcome, but the one thing that everyone in GYST crew felt was that this won’t give you any type of relief. You are not necessarily going to come out of this and feel great. You might even come out more confused, but it will give you a clear direction of what you want from your future.
Before you start writing think about what thoughts are going through your mind? Are you excited? Nervous? Scared? Anxious? Why are you feeling those thoughts? What do you hope to gain out of this journaling exercise? When was the last time you journaled?
Now when you start journaling, pick one of the prompts below that instinctually jumps out at you. Don’t think, don’t feel. There is one that is calling to you, go with that one!
- Considering my current state of affairs (job, savings, investments, health, friends, relationships), what will my life be like in 5 years if I continue with this trend? How do I feel about that?
- Something I would love to do, but I’m not sure I can be? How does that make me feel? Who is someone that I can connect with for help?
- Considering my current state of affairs (job, savings, investments, health, friends, relationships), what advice would I give to myself 10 years ago?
- This year what I want most is? Why don’t I have this in my life already? What are 5 things I can do to get it?
- The highest high I have ever been in my life was when…? The lowest low I have ever been in my life was when…? Why did I pick those two moments? Describe them in detail using feelings.
- A regret that haunts me the most is…? What do you wish you would have done differently? Detail the experience, the feelings it caused then and continues to today.
Now that you’ve finished, how do you feel? What are you thinking? Is this valuable to you?
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100: 100th Episode
WOOT WOOT 100TH EPISODE!!!!!
We are so excited to be here at this moment to celebrate this special moment with not only all of our listeners out there but also with our friends and family who joined us for the live broadcast of your favorite podcast, the GYST Podcast, also known as GET YOUR SH*T TOGETHER!
When Rohit Rohila, Kyle Reed, and Christian Cloud started this podcast back in 2015, they had no idea how to do this! They didn’t know what to talk about in the episode, how to edit an audio clip, how to create graphic images, publish post and like billion other things, but look at us now – we went from a 3 man team to 7 man team, our audio has gotten 100 times better, we have a website that is going through second round of improvements, along with huge footprint in social media and much more that we couldn’t have done it without YOU!
We would like to say a big Thank you from everyone from this podcast, (Rohit Rohila, Kyle Reed, Samnang Tea, Amit Bhardwaj, Kamal Kalra, Glen Rux, and Ruben Marquez) to every single individual who have listened to us (Wyoming – Help us help you Get Your Shit Together! We need more listeners!). We also want to take some time and thank every individual who have listened to us from these top countries: United States, Canada, Japan, United Kingdom, Australia, Germany, France, Ireland, New Zealand, Israel, Sweden, India, United Arab Emirates, Saudi Arabia, Slovakia, Philippines, Austria, Korea, South Africa, Netherlands, Norway, Cayman Islands, China, Venezuela, Belgium, Taiwan, and Denmark!
This has been a very long and emotional ride. All of us here for one reason or another, but our end goal is to get our shit together and hope to help you get your shit together. If you would like to be a part of this episode, want to provide feedback, suggest a topic, or want to have an open minded no judgment conversation then please reach out to us!
099: Why Friendships Fall Apart
No one wants to end a friendship, but sometimes it just happens. As we evolve, grow, and our interests change, sometimes we just tend to slowly drift away from people that we once valued so much.
As children, it’s a distance that tends to end friendships. Either someone moves away, or is in another class next year. We make new friends and then soon move on. It’s so much easier as a kid than an adult.
As adults, we get emotionally involved and often times friendships ending lead to a great deal of hurt. Most of this hurt can be attributed to expectations we have on friendships and hold others accountable to. If I would be there for someone night and day, no matter what, I would hope that the other person would feel the same. And when they don’t, we get hurt, and we drift apart.
If you feel a valued friendship slowly fading, talk to the other person about how you feel. They could feel the exact same way. Or most likely, they didn’t even realize that they were making you feel this way. If they really are a friend, shouldn’t you speak up and talk to them about how you feel? Is the friendship that important to you?
Understand, however, that there is a clear distinction between drifting apart and being disrespectful. If you make several attempts to communicate, and the other person isn’t reciprocating, as painful as it may be, as many unanswered questions as there may be, let go… and move on.